Tuesday, June 3, 2014

A Great Work At Home

I am doing a great work, so I cannot come down. Neh. 6:3

How better can a woman serve her family than by being at home?  
Mothers who stay home have been demeaned and devalued by society today, but there is no job of greater importance or more rewarding. A Christian stay-at-home mother can daily minister and care her family in a special way. 

And ye shall teach them your children, speaking of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. Deut. 11:19  

How can a woman work outside of the home and give the best to her family.  Why is it expected for woman to do the jobs of two people. Women do not need to give their family "left-overs".  If a woman works away from home full-time, when does she have time to nurture and care for the needs of her family and home?  Is it during the few hours while she is throwing together an evening meal, hurrying through some chores, helping with homework, before she falls into bed exhausted?
God created woman to be a helper and to compliment man.  A woman was created to teach the younger women how to love their husbands and be "keepers of the home".  
The wise woman builds her house, but with her own
hands the foolish one tears hers down. ...Prov. 14:1

Who has a mother working outside of the home given her children to while she's out working at the "wrong" job? Here's a funny question; why is it called a "real" job or career when a woman takes care of other children in a daycare, but then it is not a real job if the mother does it herself? How messed up is that?
A woman who thinks she is doing it all by working and taking care of a home is mistaken.

Is she giving her husband the left-overs of a tired and worn out wife? Yes! In fact she is serving
"left-overs" to her entire family.
Are her children being taught God's truth or from secular atheist textbooks?

(When you send your kids off to public school, 
you are sending them into a pagan society. ~Charles Stanley)

Are they getting wholesome Biblical instruction?
Who is answering their questions?
What are their questions?
What are they learning from "society"?
Whose agenda are they being taught?
What about peer pressure?
What are the effects of being away from home for 8-10 hours learning what the world teaches?

(Send your kids off to Caesar every day, 
and don't be surprised if they come home acting like Romans! ~Voddie Baucham)

What are her kids being taught are the most important things in life? Are they self gratification, money, success, or tolerance and acceptance to all things ungodly?

(For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine. 2 Tim. 4:3)

Does an away-from-home mom have quality time with God during her busy day?
Does she have time to enjoy her home?
Do her children have time to pray or read their Bible? (Oh wait, they are not allowed to do that in public school!)
Does her husband come home to a clean house, supper, or a hug and a smile?
Or has she been taught that it is demeaning for a wife to be so gracious to her husband?

If a family is willing to make sacrifices, I believe that God can make a way for the woman to stay at home and care for the needs of her family.  It's easier to plan at the beginning of a marriage and before having children, but it is possible years later.

But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible. Matthew 19:26

Biblical femininity reflects the beauty of holiness, but feminist ideals reflect selfish ambitions in a fallen world.~me

She looketh well to the ways of her household. Prov.31:27

Don't get me wrong, there is no perfect housewife who gets it all done all the time.  I may not always have supper ready on time, or the dishes washed before midnight, and I sure don't always look as well fixed-up and dressed as the Victorian women in this post.  It is important for me to keep my home as a sanctuary for my family.  I try to keep a clean, peaceful, and organized home.
 I know that Little House on the Prairie is just a movie, but I do love the character of Caroline Ingalls.

She always had her home in order and her family taken care of! Even though this is a movie, the real Laura Ingalls did write about her mom as the kind of person Karen Grassle portrayed as Ma Ingalls.
Even though we live in another century, the needs of raising children and keeping a home have not changed.  In such a polluted world, they need this type of nurturing today more than ever! Regardless of what society says, sheltering your kids is NOT harmful!  It gives them roots, common sense, and the courage to stand for what is right in this sinful world!  They have to be taught, and the best place is in a Christian home NOT government institutions!

Yes, I shelter my kids.
What will I be accused of next, feeding and clothing them?

If anyone teaches otherwise and does not consent to wholesome words, even the words of our Lord Jesus Christ, and to the doctrine which accords with godliness, he is proud, knowing nothing, but is obsessed with disputes and arguments over words, from which come envy, strife, reviling, evil suspicions, useless wranglings of men of corrupt minds and destitute of the truth, who suppose that godliness is a means of gain. From such withdraw yourself. 1 Tim. 6:3-5

...keep that which is committed to thy trust, avoiding profane and vain babblings, and oppositions of science falsely so called: Which some professing have erred concerning the faith. Grace be with thee. Amen. 1Tim. 6:20-21

Don't these scriptures sound just like secular textbooks in public schools and universities today that teach evolution, liberal agenda, and tolerance to the perverseness in this sinful world?

Most women today would say that they have to work.  That may be true because of their lifestyle. What is worldly gain if the hearts and minds of our children are in jeopardy and our homes are chaotic and neglected?  What do we want the most?  Is it status, stuff, and more and more stuff.  Is it a wealthier lifestyle or a richer life?

For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also. Matthew 6:21

 Make the necessary sacrifices to have a joyful home!
Ask God for help, give God His portion, cut spending, go out less, buy a cheaper vehicle, get a cheaper phone plan, reduce the number of cell phones, bargain hunt, shop at thrift stores, clip coupons, hang out laundry, have a weekly menu, watch a movie at home, get rid of cable television and buy movies or subscribe to Netflix, plan for less trips to town, take less vacations, turn off lights when not needed, plant a small vegetable garden, google tips on how to be frugal, work from home, make a family budget, cut up all credit cards, try the cash envelope system by putting a certain amount of cash aside each pay period  to have the amount needed to pay monthly bills.  Allow a certain amount for groceries, clothing, entertainment, etc. and never spend more that you have set aside for that expense.  If you have extra cash, carry it over to the next month or transfer it to your "extra" envelope.

With God's help and frugal planning, it can be possible to "live" on one income.

"I learned more about Christianity from my mother than from all the theologians in England." ~ John Wesley

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates. Proverbs 31:10-31

A Mother's Job Titles:

Personal Chef 

Dish Washer




Home Interior Decorator 
Bible Teacher 
Prayer Partner 
Prayer Warrior 
Taxi Driver 
Judge Mom 
PhD in Anger Management 
Hair Stylist 
Food Tester 
Family Therapist 
Errand Runner 
Laundry Machine Operator 
Repair Expert 
Finance Manager 
Art Director 
Land Scraper 
Potty Trainer 
Child Care Provider 
Personal Assistant for the entire family 
Wardrobe Stylist 
Personal Shopper 
Activity Coordinator 
Birthday Events Director 
Home Safety Patrol Officer 
Dramatic Story Teller 
Driving Coach 
Kiss and Hugs Expert 
Party Planner 
Wedding Planer 
Physical Therapist 
Speech Specialist 
PhD in Reverse Psychology 
Mrs. Fix-It 
Fort Engineer 
Stain Removal Expert 
and the list goes on....


  1. I love this post. I never wanted my family to have left overs either. Being home with them all day, I noticed when something was bothering them. It may have been a simple change in their faces or action, but if I had to work and come home rushing around, I never would have noticed and I never would have taken the time to sit down and know them. I am forever thankful to God that he told me to quit my job the month before I had my first child. I have never regretted the sacrifices in order to stay at home.

    1. I am so glad that you were able to stay home. It's important to listen to God. Thanks for your sweet comment on my post. Visit me again.

    2. A lovely post. Glad to have found your blog. I came over from Strangers and Pilgrims on Earth link up.

    3. Thank you so much for visiting! I just added a link-up party if you have a blog you'd like to link. Visit me again soon!
      God Bless,

    4. Thank you thank you! I have been pressured by family that now that all my children are in school I should get a job. But I feel so convicted that I need to be at home. What an amazing post that covers all the bases!

  2. Thank you for sharing with us here at "Tell Me a True Story." Your tips on how to cut back are great, and all should take heed. Your thoughts on being a stay at home mom are convincing and should be considered if at all possible. For some it is not possible. I have a friend whose husband left her with small children, and she chose to request welfare. This enabled her to be with her children until her embarrassment caused her to take a job when her children reached school age. Single mothers do not have the choice at times to stay at home. Grandparents are a blessing when they can help out. One more year for you to home school. we did not even know about home school many years ago and I am not sure my stress level could have done it. But then God is our helper!

    1. Thanks for commenting on my post. I feel sorry for single moms and widows too. Grandparents are a blessing and a big help. I wish more churches offered Christian schools and did more to help widows and single parents trying to raise their kids in a Christian environment. Homeschool has been a blessing! It has really grown over the years. If I knew of a single working mom who lived close by, who wanted to homeschool her child, I would help. It's legal in Georgia to have a tutor although the parent would still be considered the primary educator. Still, it's hard to find help now days. Thank God for His help!
      God Bless you. Visit my blog often,

  3. Such a beautiful post! I love staying home with my kids. Hardest, most rewarding job ever! It's my God-given vocation, though. Blessings!

    1. Thanks for your sweet comment, Jaime. It is a hard and rewarding job. I hate when people ask, "Do you work?" It is "work" to take care of a home and family! I am so glad that you are able to be at home.
      God bless,

  4. Great post. Being a wife and mother is the most rewarding profession a woman could hope for! I know that some must work out of the home to make ends meet. They still can have quality time when they are at home. Thanks for sharing with SYC.

    1. Thanks Jann. I am glad I could share. I have link-up #2 going on now at somuchathome.blogspot.com.
      God Bless,

  5. Great Article!! Love the Voddie quote! Thanks for linking up to Hip Homeschool Moms' blog hop this week. I always enjoy reading your articles!!

    1. Thanks Trish! I watched Voddie say that on the Indoctrination of Public Schools and the Decline of Christianity in America dvd. Have you seen that dvd? Every parent needs to see that dvd.
      God bless,

  6. Beautiful post! BTW I don't know if you knew this but Little House On The Prairie is a true story (one of my favorites!) and she was the same in the books! <3

    1. Yes, I did know. We have read the Little House books. The TV series added a lot, but I love to watch them. I love Caroline Ingalls, the real lady and the character. She defines the Proverbs 31 woman. Every time I read Proverbs 31:11-31 it makes me think about the Caroline Ingalls played by Karen Grassle.
      Thanks for visiting my blog!
      God bless.

  7. Very encouraging post! Thank you for sharing! I love the verse from Nehemiah that you started with, it was perfect!!! Thank you for linking up with the Art of Home-Making Mondays this week :)

    1. Thanks, JES. I am glad you mentioned the verse from Nehemiah. That verse jumped right out at me. This is a subject close to my heart, and I love writing about it.
      God bless.

  8. I love the list of "Mother's Job Titles." Thank you for sharing this on Theology Thursdays FOR KIDS!!!

    1. Thanks for hosting! I am glad that you have enjoyed these posts.
      God bless.

  9. There are a lot of people that don't believe in SAHMs and this is a really nice post that makes me feel better for my choice to become one. Thanks for sharing on Merry Monday.

  10. Thanks for such a positive post about stay at home mums. I have been in both positions, I worked full time when my no 2 son was little. I missed so much of this time with him and would never go back to work again. My job is to stay home and look after my family, teaching our children, caring for my husband and all that staying home entails. Thanks for sharing this great post at Good Morning Mondays. Blessings

  11. This is still one of my favorite posts of yours! Thank you for sharing it on the Art of Home-Making Mondays! :)

    1. Thanks Jes. It is a topic I am very passionate about.
      God bless.

  12. Oh, my yes. Home is the sanctuary for the family. We all need it but may not get it. That personnel assistant job is one tall order. I struggle with that one daily!

    1. Thanks for your lovely comment.
      God bless.


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