Wednesday, July 6, 2016

Deceitful Lips & Itchy Ears

A perverse person stirs up conflict,
and a gossip separates close friends.
 Proverbs 16:28

Most professing Christians would not consider themselves to be "perverse" or a "troublemaker". 
 I believe such an abomination is an epidemic
in the lives of so many professing to be Christians.
Truly, a person is not living for the Lord if he or she constantly has a flagrant, unbridled tongue.
If a person spreads gossip, they are serving the devil!

Know ye not, that to whom ye yield yourselves servants to obey, his servants ye are to whom ye obey; whether of sin unto death, or of obedience unto righteousness?

 Proverbs 16:6

You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father’s desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies. John 8:44

Because I am not excluded from the devil's manipulating wiles, I have learned lessons myself during my Christian pilgrimage. I have prayed for forgiveness and to have the heart to forgive others.  I have prayed for a right spirit and for the strength to know when to speak and when to shut my mouth.
 It's not right to fight gossip with more gossip. We can know bad things about a person to be true, but it doesn't help to use them against a person to bring them down.
On the contrary, we are to edify each other!
We are to esteem others more than we do ourselves!
Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. Eph. 4:29
What is happening to people?
I admit, it isn't at all times easy, especially when provoked. 
Petty gossip among believers is serious.
"Petty" being an oxymoron,
because lies and gossip are far from petty (inconsequential). 
Lies carry great consequences!
Note the significance of lies and gossip as you read these next few verses of scripture.

These six things doth the Lord hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him:
A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood,...

and the following verses accurately describes a gossip
An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief,
A false witness that speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren.
Proverbs 6:16-19

Many are quick to excuse their "false witness" for various reasons.
 Perhaps the devil is guiding their reasoning by making them feel like they are being justified because they themselves have felt mistreated,unjustly treated, or maybe they feel like life hasn't treated them fairly.
They point out slanderous falsehoods about others while at the same time try to use the utmost spiritual tactfulness.
One should not claim to have Christian moral standards and beliefs to which one's own behavior does not conform!
Justifying one's reasoning for sowing seeds of discord is merely
On the other hand, I know people who lie and spread lies as naturally as talking or breathing.  It's seems to be just part of who they are.  Most likely, they were raised like that, and to them it's second nature. It comes out of them in such a nonchalant manner that I don't think they even realize how wrong it is. 
Although I genuinely feel sorry for them, I have oftentimes been hurt by their "evil" ways. I worry about their eternal salvation, and I pray they will realize their need for repentance.
while the wicked slander me
and tell lies about me.
They surround me with hateful words
and fight against me for no reason.
I love them, but they try to destroy me with accusations
even as I am praying for them!
 Psalm 109:2-4

Trying to convenience others to believe bad about another person is an abomination!
Why do so many professing Christians quickly turn their ear to hear the lies?
Furthermore, isn't it just as wrong for a person to hear gossip and falsely accuse or treat another person unjustly because of it?
A wicked person listens to deceitful lips; a liar pays attention to a destructive tongue. Proverbs 17:4

Oh but a Christian wouldn't consider themselves to be a "wicked person" for just listening to gossip and believing it.
It happens all the time.  A person eagerly tunes in to false accusations about another, believes it, and are glad they heard it.
  Without a second thought that they have paid attention to a destructive tongue, they go to a midweek church service, clap their hands, sing a song, and praise the Lord all while their thoughts bear false witness against another. 
Satan is happy.
Oh sadly, I'm not without guilt,
 but I have been redeemed!
Thank God!
I am not so easily deceived by satan's ploy to 
divide and conquer!
Christians, open your eyes!
Let go of resentment or pure foolishness that keeps your ears in tune to destructive tongues and your own lips ready to spread the seeds of discourse.
Wouldn't families, churches, friend, and other relationships be better if we made it a point to build each other up instead of tearing each other down. 
Even if someone you know (for fact) has many indecencies themselves tells lies and gossips about you, you should make it a point, as Christians, to find the good qualities about them and speak only words of edification. 
If someone has hurt us, we will never allow the wound to heal if we keep picking at it, even in the hypocritical manner I mentioned above by trying to retaliate with words spun with "Christian" tact.  Just as we don't talk evil of someone, we shouldn't use God's word to instruct or point a finger if it's done with a resentful heart or vindictive motives.  Most times this behavior is easily recognized by a mature Christian.
 If we try our best to bring out only the good in a person, it might just work. 
  If not, we must strive to speak no evil against a person.  It is better to remain silent.
This can be extremely hard, I know.
 However, it is part of our spiritual growth process.
  Are we still just
 babes in Christ?
 If we can not help a person, we should not hurt them.  The truth has a way of coming out over time.
Jesus says, "bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you." Matthew 5:4
In doing so,
we shalt heap coals of fire upon his head, and the Lord shall reward thee. Proverbs 25:22
It's past time for professing Christians to seriously question in their own hearts and minds if they are furthering satan's ploy to divide and conquer, or if they are exemplifying the Kingdom of God in their lives.
How quickly one can become defensive and deny that they have done and/or continue to do "wickedness".
 It is so important to ask ourselves a few questions such as:
Should I say this about that person?
Is it true, and if so why would I want to spread it? 
Would God want me to say this about that person?
Why do I want to talk bad about this person?
Would I want someone saying this about me?
Do I love this person?
Do I hate this person?
Is my heart right towards this person?
Has this person hurt me? 
Should I listen to this gossip?
Should I believe this?
Why is this person telling me this?
Lord, who shall abide in thy tabernacle?
 Who shall dwell in thy holy hill?
He that walketh uprightly, and worketh righteousness, and speaketh the truth in his heart.
He that backbiteth not with his tongue, nor doeth evil to his neighbour, nor taketh up a reproach against his neighbour.
In whose eyes a vile person is contemned; but he honoureth them that fear the Lord. He that sweareth to his own hurt, and changeth not.
He that putteth not out his money to usury, nor taketh reward against the innocent. He that doeth these things shall never be moved.

If we can read God's word without having love and compassion for one another,even those who mistreat us, 
something is major wrong in our hearts.
  My eyes were swelling with tears as I typed,
Lord, who shall abide in thy tabernacle?
 who shall dwell in thy holy hill?
God is love!
His word is love!
His kingdom is love?
Love does not envy!
Love is not puffed up!
Love does not behave itself unseemly!
Love seeketh not its own!
Love is not easily provoked!
Love thinketh no evil!
Love rejoices not in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth!
If we love each other, we will not speak lies or gossip about others.

We know that we have passed from death unto life, because we love the brethren. He that loveth not his brother abideth in death. 1John 3:14

We can not call ourselves the children of God if we do not love each other enough not to speak evil of one another or, just as wrongly, listen and believe gossip. 
God has called us out of such childishness and worldliness.

Again, I must stress that I believe we should all carefully ask God to help us search our hearts about this instead of feeling like we're too "holy" to be caught up in this deception.
  There is so much strife in the world.  Family and close relationships are being effected more and more.  The Bible says that in the last days evil will wax worse.  People's hearts will grow cold, and there will be more wickedness including slander.
 It's time to stop any form of gossip!
Just as importantly, it's time to stop listening and believing gossip!
It's time to ask ourselves this question,
Is this gossip?
Do people realize when they themselves gossip, or do they only call it gossip when others do it?
Lord, help us to realize gossip, lies, and deception even when we're talking or listening to those closes to us.
  Gossip is wickedness!
Slander is evil!
Lies are born from the father of all lies, satan!

People would not lie and slander others without having bitterness and resentment residing in their heart.

If I regard iniquity in my heart, the Lord will not hear me. Psalm 66:18

That should be a sobering verse.  How desperately we need for God to hear our prayers in the days we are living in!

Let us do our best to have love and compassion for others. 
We need to take our cares to the Lord's ears.  We need to vent to the One who can deliver us, comfort us, and guide us into all understanding.  

We need to shut out the lies and ploy of the devil, and strive to live peaceable and considerate lifestyles.

Here are just a few more verses regarding this topic:

"But I tell you that every careless word that people speak, they shall give an accounting for it in the day of judgment. Matthew 12:26

Whoever secretly slanders his neighbor, him I will destroy; No one who has a haughty look and an arrogant heart will I endure. Psalm 101:5

For I am afraid that perhaps when I come I may find you to be not what I wish and may be found by you to be not what you wish; that perhaps there will be strife, jealousy, angry tempers, disputes, slanders, gossip, arrogance, disturbances; 2 Cor. 12:20

Therefore, putting aside all malice and all deceit and hypocrisy and envy and all slander... 1 Peter 2:1

You shall not go about as a slanderer among your people, and you are not to act against the life of your neighbor; I am the LORD. Lev. 19:16

to slander no one, to be peaceable and considerate, and always to be gentle toward everyone. Titus 3:2

1 comment:

  1. Great post about gossiping and how it displeases God. I believe most people do know when they're gossiping and slandering someone. They do it to destroy the person. They think it's okay to hurt someone as long as it's with words and not physically but words can sometimes do more damage than a physical attack.


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